Getting married is worth celebrating. Spending the rest of your life with someone you love deeply is something to look forward to and thoroughly enjoy.
It’s too bad that planning a wedding is incredibly stressful for most couples. And that stress takes away from the celebration, appreciation, and anticipation of a joyful future with your spouse.
Getting ahead of potential wedding stressors can make all the difference in how happy and engaged you are in the planning process and on your wedding day. Let’s look at seven common wedding stressors and the best ways to overcome them.
Trying to fit wedding planning into a busy schedule can feel impossible. And when something you have to accomplish feels impossible to do, it’s easy to become highly stressed.
Scheduling your planning days will make things a lot less stressful. Consider your and your spouse’s schedules. Determine which days you both can do wedding planning and days where you can tackle it individually.
Next, create a timeline. Assign specific tasks and activities to each day and do your best to stick to your timeline. Avoid rescheduling because this only pushes back planning and creates more stress.
Choosing when to get married is a critical, stressful decision. You want a season that matches the look and feel you’re going for in your wedding. You also want to ensure the weather doesn’t hinder your day.
The best seasons to say “I do” in Australia are autumn (March, April, and May) and spring (September, October, and November). These seasons offer good weather. You also have a lot more flexibility when it comes to outfit choices, themes, and floral arrangements.
Take these suggestions as exactly that: suggestions. When you choose to get married really depends on your needs, vision, and budget.
On average, Australian weddings cost $36,000. When you establish a sizeable budget like this, going over it is the last thing you want to do. And trying to stay within a smaller budget can be even more stressful because you don’t have the money for overages.
Doing everything you can to save money when working with a tight budget can make it so financial stress doesn’t ruin your wedding.
Look at eliminating unnecessary expenses from your daily lifestyle — such as unused subscriptions, dining out, and expensive grocery shopping — and put that money toward your wedding fund instead. See what you can DIY for your wedding. Think about starting a side hustle too. You can use the extra funds to establish an emergency fund for your wedding.
Think creatively to lessen the financial burden of your wedding and make decisions with your budget at the forefront.
One of the most important wedding decisions you’ll make is the venue. It’s also one of the most stressful decisions to make because finding a venue that accommodates all of your, your spouse’s, and your guest’s needs can be a challenge.
To make this process less stressful, accept that you won’t able to accommodate everything everyone needs. Put your and your spouse’s needs first. Then, consider core guest needs like accessibility requirements.
Give yourself time to visit various venues as well. Having to rush and find a venue makes things even more stressful. So, start going on venue tours well in advance of your wedding day, preferably a year.
There are a lot of components to account for in a wedding including the décor, food, flowers, cake, music, venue, and activities. The stressful part is having to work with a different vendor for each of these components.
Trying to keep your vendor list organized can be a lot to deal with. Still, it’s necessary to ensure your wedding is exactly what you want it to be.
Create a system for keeping track of your vendors. Whether you use an Excel spreadsheet or decide to handwrite your vendor notes, document the following information:
Staying organized will keep your stress level down when dealing with various vendors.
It’s okay to want to look and feel your best on your wedding day. The stress comes when trying to achieve both leads to unhealthy behaviours like extreme dieting and obsessive thinking.
Don’t let negative thoughts win. Don’t let trying to achieve an unrealistic physical fitness goal win either. Instead, improve your self-esteem so that you genuinely feel good on the inside and thoroughly enjoy your wedding regardless of how you look on the outside.
Improving your self-esteem may also help you cope with stress better. Instead of getting down on yourself when things become challenging, you’ll be more inclined to stay positive and find solutions.
You can improve your self-esteem by:
Coping with stress is a lot easier with high-self esteem. How you feel improves, and you’ll appreciate how good you look whether you’ve achieved your fitness goals entirely or not.
As beautiful as weddings are, planning them can be incredibly stressful. What makes them stressful varies. But the above seven stressors are the most common. Account for and overcome them to ensure that both the planning stage and the actual day are full of joy and happiness rather than negativity and stress.