Pros and Cons of Changing Your Name After Marriage

When you’re going to get married, there are so many decisions to be made like the venue, the menu, the wedding style, etc. But there are also important decisions to be made after your wedding day and whether or not you’ll change your name after marriage is one of them. It can be really difficult for you to take the final decision. Besides, we don’t have the right answer that suits everyone. But there are a few things to take into account before keeping your maiden name or adopting your spouse’s name.

When Should I Change My Name After Marriage?

Here we’ve prepared a useful list of reasons why you should change your name after your big day and what benefits you can get if you don’t leave your maiden name after the wedding.

You should take your husband’s name if…

You Don’t Like Your Last Name

One of the major reasons for changing your name is your aversion to your own maiden name. You can feel uncomfortable when you mention your last name because it is difficult to spell, awkward, funny or unpronounceable. Well, don’t think too much – change it after marrying.

You Stick To Traditions

It may sound a bit old-fashioned but changing your maiden name is a longstanding tradition. In order not to confuse the elders, you should take your spouse’s name and live the rest of your life together with the same last name.

You Want To Bond The Family Together

Having the common last name after the wedding is a perfect way to create a sense of family identity. If all the members of your family have the same surname, you’ll be more easily recognizable as the family unit.

What Are The Benefits Of Changing Your Name After Marriage?

When it comes to the benefits of having the common name after the wedding, check them out below:

  • Every member of your family will have the same surname and it’ll make your life easier when you have kids. Going on trips and dealing with kindergartens or schools will be a lot simpler when you adopt your husband’s name.
  • Taking your spouse’s name can help you feel more confident and connected with each other. Moreover, changing your maiden name can be an official sign of the commitment you’ve made to each other.
  • Changing your last name may help you avoid a lot of misunderstandings. Don’t forget that most people will associate you with your husband and if you have the common last name, it’ll make your life more harmonious and you can skip some confusion and unpleasant situations.


When Shouldn’t I Change My Name After Marriage?

According to the study, about 20 percent of brides prefer to keep their maiden name when they get married and they have reasons not to change their last name. Are you sure that you don’t have a reason to keep your family name?

So you shouldn’t take your husband’s name if…

You Dislike His Surname

In case when you don’t like your spouse’s name, it’d be better to keep your one. Remember, a good husband will always excuse you from taking his last name if it sounds confusing with your first name or it’s just a clunky surname.

You Adore Your Maiden Name

You love your last name and you could never imagine that your maiden name will be changed! In this case, don’t try to change it because you’ll feel uncomfortable and it can affect the relationship with your husband.

You Hate Paperwork

Changing your maiden name requires a lot of paperwork. Don’t forget that! If you’re not ready to waste your time on rewriting your personal documents, you should stick with your last name.

What Are The Disadvantages of Not Changing Name After Marriage?

Getting married and not changing your maiden name can entail some difficulties in the future. Here they are:

  • Be ready to explain to other people that you two are the couple – you just didn’t want to change your last name after the wedding.
  • Be ready to get invitations with mistakes because anyway most people will associate you with your husband and print you Mrs. [Your Spouse’s Surname].
  • Be ready to explain to everyone (at kindergarten, school or customs) that these are your children and you have a different last name.


Actually, no matter what you decide. Look at the pros and cons one more time and make the decision that works best for you.

Author’s Bio

Vicki Mozo is an editor of Her main writing topic is love and she is very passionate about relationships. She tries to possess the right amount of professionalism and versatility to be your psychological assistant. Her motto is “Communication is one of the key skills for every person”.