There are many ways you can show your love and affection to your partner, and a love letter is one of them. Unsurprisingly, many people are at a loss when it comes to being romantic. After all, we are used to being practical rather than doing all the crazy things we do for love.
But there are some tips you can follow in order to write a good, sweet love letter to your significant other. This article will tell you all about the ins and outs of writing about your feelings.
You are writing a love letter, so start off with exactly that. Prepare by making a list of things you appreciate and adore about them and focus on those. And avoid any criticism or harsh remarks.
It is also a good idea to surprise your spouse by starting with something you don’t usually say. Alternatively, you can just get to the point and after the words “Dear [their name]” write “I love you”. Whatever you feel like saying – just go with it. The more sincere you are, the better.
This is a love letter, so you are talking about something sacred here. It’s not a business letter or a postcard. You don’t have to sound professional or use terminology. Let your heart speak for you.
It’s okay to pour out your soul to them. After all, this is your second half, your closest friend, maybe even your soulmate (if you believe in those). Think about what makes you stay together, what made you fall in love with them. Go through that list of positive sides you like about your partner.
You should establish a connection with them. Think of the things that only you two know. Maybe it’s an inside joke you share or an almost magical memory of a trip you went on. Don’t be afraid to talk about more intimate things.
Once you have talked about yourself and your feelings a little, talk about them. Focus on your loved one and make your letter dedicated to them instead of praising yourself. You are addressing it to them, so talk about them.
On the other hand, remember to take into account what they gave you and the things or people that are constantly present in your lives. Maybe these are your wonderful children that you are raising together, or maybe it’s their family that accepted you for who you are. Think of what they gave you and how valuable these ‘gifts’ were and still are.
Pet names can not only set the mood from the beginning but can also maintain it until the very end of your letter. Use pet names both for yourself and for them.
If you haven’t used pet names before, this is a good time to start. You can check out this list of pet names that has over five hundred of them. There are female, male, and neutral pet names and nicknames that you can adopt. It may seem weird at first, but you will ultimately get used to it.
In case you want something kind of original, try to remember which book, movie or TV show you are both fond of. You can take the pet names characters use there. For example, in Game of Thrones, Daenerys calls Khal Drogo ‘My Sun and Stars’, while he calls her ‘Moon of my life’.
While you should talk about the things you appreciate and love about your spouse, don’t forget to mention their beauty and the sacrifices they have made for you or your family.
Nobody can deny that one of the reasons they love their other half is because they love their looks. But, frankly, beauty is subjective and everyone has their own standards.
On the other hand, sacrifices your spouse has made may be either tiny or enormous, but you should mention them anyway. After all, they may seem insignificant to you, but your spouse might have a different opinion about them.
In the list of hot and sexy things, speaking a foreign language is probably in the top five at least. When you speak (or write) foreign words, you can sound seductive and display your knowledge at the same time.
This is really useful when both you and your partner speak English, but they also know another language (which might be their native language). You can surprise them by writing something they will understand, but what you don’t usually use in your daily life. Of course, in order to do that, you will either have to learn the language or simply translate your text from English. Google Translate, sadly is not the best option for this, but you can still use such online services as Trust My Paper who will translate your text in a beautiful way.
Both men and women love gifts. You can say that you have planned a romantic dinner for the evening or offer a massage just for them. Alternatively, this can be a surprise that you will unveil to them right after they read the letter.
Gifts can range from a simple flower bouquet to a new car or a trip abroad, but what you must remember is that the price does not matter. What matters is how much this gift will mean to you and to them and how much effort you put into it.
End your letter with love. Don’t just leave it abruptly at whatever thought you were writing about. You can sign it with a pet name if you feel like it or if you began the letter by addressing them with a pet name. Consider using such phrases as “Forever Yours” or “With Love Forever”.
Now that the letter is written, make it look pretty. If you feel like you want to draw something simple on it, go ahead. Your creativity will definitely look cute.
Alternatively, if you want to go out of your way to make it as perfect as possible, you can design your own letter by using Canva and then print it out. You can either leave the handwriting or type out the letter on your laptop. But it’s always better to leave it handwritten because that looks more human and real.
The last step is to organize a special delivery of your letter. Maybe you want them to receive it at work while all their colleagues are watching, or you want to deliver it yourself because you want to see their expression as they read it. In any case, don’t make it plain and organize something nice.
To sum up, follow these steps and by the end of the guide, you will have an amazing love letter that speaks to your partner on an intimate level. You want to make it the best you can (especially if you decided to write it to apologize for something), so put in some effort!
Diana Nadim is a writer and editor who has a Masters Degree in Marketing. She combines her passion for writing with her interest in research and creates thought-provoking content in various fields. Diana also runs her own 3to5Marketing blog. What inspires her the most in her writing is travelling and meeting new people. Follow her on Twitter.