Your wedding may be the day that you’ve been dreaming up since you were a small child, full of picturesque scenes and a stunning dress to match. But it’s not uncommon for married couples to regret at least a few aspects of their wedding day. Knowing as much as you can of what can go wrong and how to deal with it can save you from the biggest and most avoidable regrets after your wedding is over. Here are the 10 things to know before planning your big day:
Aside from thinking about the level of experience, quality of photos, and budget when choosing your wedding photographer, a big part of your decision should be based on how comfortable you feel when working with them. You’re going to spend countless days prior to your wedding day communicating to your photographer via phone, text, and email, confirming all the necessary details. And on the actual wedding day itself, your photographer is going to be there for most (if not all) of the day and night! Hiring a photographer who not only does a superb job at taking photos but also knows how to have fun can make for an even more memorable and enjoyable wedding experience.
Be prepared for all the unexpected hiccups that are likely to happen on (or even right before) your wedding day. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and frustrated when these things happen, but don’t let your emotions get the best of you and ruin your wedding day. Adjustments and compromises are nothing out of the ordinary when it comes to weddings, so be rest assured that everything will turn out fine even if things aren’t perfect or don’t go according to your plan.
Whether it’s your wedding cake, guest’s food, wedding flowers, or even samples of work from your DJ, feel free to get your hands on as many different samples as possible before making your final decisions. Being a little more demanding in these initial stages means you’ll less likely be stuck regretting your decisions and questioning yourself afterwards when it’s far too late. But if you know you’re an indecisive person and will most likely be paralysed with the abundance of choices, make sure you bring along a family member or friend to help you narrow down your options.
Similarly to asking for samples, you can always book an appointment to attend another event at your desired wedding venue prior to officially making the booking. Your venue may look incredibly different once props are set up and décor is added. So, rather than basing your decision off an empty venue, try making an appointment to another event to grasp a better feel of how your venue may look on your wedding day.
Everyone will have an opinion about your dress – some will be more upsetting or hurtful. Taking on every one of these comments can cause a snowball of insecurities and distract you from planning your wedding properly. It’s okay to seek advice and thoughts prior to choosing your wedding dress, but as long as your happy with your decision, it’s best to keep your wedding dress to yourself afterwards.
There’s no good excuse to skim over your contracts. Even if you’re strapped for time, make sure you thoroughly read through all the details found in your contracts – whether it be with your photographer, food vendors, DJs, etc. The last thing you want is to be unexpectedly notified that you have no photographer for the last hour of your wedding, or you end up waiting for months after the expected date to receive your finished wedding photos. Highlight any ambiguous or vague terms that aren’t specified, and make sure all essential details are clearly outlined in the contract – it’ll save you more time and headaches in the long run.
Your photographer may already have certain shots in mind during your wedding, but you shouldn’t depend on them to know what you’re thinking as well. It may be obvious to you to take photos of certain things but at the end of the day, the clearer and more transparent you are with your photographer the less likely you’ll be disappointed when you receive your final wedding photos.
The scale of the clean up after your wedding can depend on your vendors and venue provider. For example, some venue staff members will help in moving your wedding gifts or packaging your wedding cake leftovers, and some florists will need to charge you a cleaning fee for any rental vases or containers used in the wedding. If there’s room in your budget, consider hiring professional cleaners since you most likely won’t have the energy to do much by the end of the night. Or if you’re having a smaller and more manageable wedding, ask around for a few people to stay behind to help clear out the venue after your wedding.
Wedding planning is stressful, but if you aren’t careful with how you deal with the added pressure and fast-approaching deadlines, you could end up feeling quite ill and uneasy on your actual wedding day. The busiest time is one month before your wedding day, so make sure during this time you and your partner schedule out sessions to unwind and fully relax – facials, massages, or just a movie night with your partner could make all the difference for your stress levels.
Don’t feel as though you need to do everything yourself. You might have to let go of your micro-managing tendencies and accept that not everything can be controlled. Delegate tasks to a few of your closest and most reliable friends or family members to free up your mind on more important things. But if you have room in your budget, why not hire a wedding planner? Having a professional assist with planning, managing and running your wedding can ensure your peace of mind and allow you to fully enjoy your wedding day.
Weddings leave memories that last a lifetime, but you wouldn’t want most or all of them to be regrets or things that you wished you had done differently. Being well prepared and doing your research is a must when it comes to avoiding blunders on your wedding day, but also make sure to appreciate all the positives of your special day – and not let the small details get the best of you.
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Kym Wallis, the founding director of Higher Ranking has over 15 years of advertising sales, digital strategy, and business development experience. He is currently working as Digital Adviser for Bioscor.